Its Tragic, But It's Not the Real Tragedy

Published: Aug 13, 2014 12:22pm EDT
By shaunmerritt, Entertainment/Sports Writer for Konsume Entertainment

Please Note: This article was updated Aug 13, 2014 @ 12:22pm EDT


Arguably one of best comedic actors we will ever see killed himself a few days ago on August 11, 2014. Once again we see another celebrity with hidden demons, who battled addiction, brought to their early demise. While the loss of an actor of Robin Williams’ caliber is very tragic, I once again have to put my foot down and declare it’s not the real tragedy.

Robin Williams, Whitney Houston, Phillip Seymour Hoffman, Cory Monteith, Gia Allemand, Mindy McCready, Chris Kelly, Lee Thompson Young, and Jiah Khan… all recently dead due to substance abuse and suicide. Promising careers that will never see another chapter.

Social media blows up with the same messages every time this happens. Tell someone you love them, be there for others, and don’t let the sun settle on an argument, blah blah blah. Fact is, as my good friend Michael Owen put it, we sure love to preach these acts, but we don’t actually ever like to practice them. The sad thing is that these are all things we should do anyway, regardless of tragic events. Telling someone you care about them should be common place. I should not need to hear about Williams’ or anyone else's death to appreciate things, but often it does.

We all live very selfish lives. We often point fingers rather than extending a helping hand. We like to tell how great this country is, but turn people away at the border and then throw racial insults at our president. We claim to want to make the world a better place for our children, but deny things like climate change. We look all around us in search of something wrong and for whatever reason, ignore the problems that are right in front of us. That is where the real tragedy lies.

People die every minute of every day. There is nothing you or I can do about that, but that doesn’t mean we have to let those around us live and die miserable and alone. What is tragic in all of these stories is that these deaths could have possibly been avoided if people got involved positively in their lives. Being a friend is more than just being there for someone, its being there for someone when they really need it and won’t admit they do.  

I can’t know for sure exactly what Robin Williams was going through. I can’t honestly say for certain it could have been avoided, but I can say this… he was searching for something that he could not find, something that would have made him happy. Obviously, he could not find it and decided death was the only answer. This in itself is the tragedy because many people saw it coming, but did not do enough to try and stop it. Even though he only chose the way he would die, those around him share some of the blame for the way he lived.

So I leave you with this… don’t go off and tell someone you love them, don’t try and make sure that those around you know you care…. Just be there for them, talk to them, and make sure to stay in touch. We all want to feel loved and appreciated, but sometimes, all we want it is to know we are not alone. 


Do not save your loving speeches
For your friends till they are dead;
Do not write them on their tombstones,
Speak them rather now instead.

– Anna Cummins



Comments (3)

  • Anonymous   Aug 14, 2014 @ 12:52PM
    Suicide is always a cry for is so tragic when it succeeds. You are right, take note when you meet someone who is lonely. Spend a little "care" or "time" with them. Sometimes just being present is all that is needed. -

  • Michael Owen   Aug 13, 2014 @ 12:26PM
    and an absolutely GREAT quote!!! -

  • Michael Owen   Aug 13, 2014 @ 12:25PM
    thank you for adding P.S.H. into this discussion. Seriously. You might actually "get it" a little now. -

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